Life out of Balance

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Life out of Balance

Sometimes, life just doesn’t seem to be going right, and nothing seems to help. You don’t feel like yourself, or are feeling sad, angry, stressed out, fed up, or even physically sick.

Why you might be feeling bad

Sometimes it’s hard to pinpoint why you’re feeling bad. It could be stress or anxiety, grief or loss, depression and other mental illnesses, family problems, problems at school, relationship or friendship problems, not eating well, not getting enough exercise, not getting enough sleep, using drugs or alcohol, being sick, and hormonal changes (especially for women during their menstrual cycles). And it can be a combination of these things.

How to reset

Here are some ideas that might help you put life in balance and be in ho′zho′.

Get informed. Once you figure out what might be causing you to feel this way, you can do something about it.

Talk to someone. Talking to someone you feel comfortable with – like a friend, family member, teacher, or counselor – can help you figure out your feelings and their cause.

Chill out. Go for a walk, listen to music, read a book, go to the movies, or whatever works for you.

Express your feelings. Writing down your feelings or keeping a journal can be a great way of understanding your current emotions. Express your feelings in a way that won’t cause bodily damage to yourself or another person. Try yelling or crying into a pillow, dancing around the room to loud music, or punching a pillow.

Look after yourself. Do something that you usually enjoy. Even though you might not feel like it, exercising and eating well can help too. Eating well and getting plenty of sleep is important.

Avoid drugs and alcohol. Try not to use alcohol or other drugs (including lots of caffeine or other energy-boosting drinks) in the hopes of feeling better. It can actually lead to you feeling worse.

If you need someone to talk to now. Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or the Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000 if you would like to talk to someone right now. Both hotlines have trained volunteers ready to listen 24/7.

Acknowledgement: This fact sheet was originally developed by youth and staff at, a website that helps teens get through tough times.

Many articles in this section were adapted from, a website for Native Youth by Native Youth